Following a long conversation with Richard, this patch tidies up the
handling of return kinds for data/newtype declarations (vanilla,
family, and instance).

I have substantially edited the Notes in TyCl, so they would
bear careful reading.

Fixes #18300, #18357

In GHC.Tc.Instance.Family.newFamInst we were checking some Lint-like
properties with ASSSERT.  Instead Richard and I have added
a proper linter for axioms, and called it from lintGblEnv, which in
turn is called in tcRnModuleTcRnM

New tests (T18300, T18357) cause an ASSERT failure in HEAD.