## Family instance consistency checks happens too early when hs-boot defined type occurs on LHS

This is a follow up ticket for #13803 (closed), since I wanted to fix the immediate bug in #13803 (closed) without having to deal with the more complicated case here:

```
-- F.hs
{-# LANGUAGE TypeFamilies #-}
module F where
type family F a :: *
-- A.hs-boot
module A where
data T
-- B.hs
{-# LANGUAGE TypeFamilies #-}
module B where
import {-# SOURCE #-} A
import F
type instance F T = Int
-- C.hs
{-# LANGUAGE TypeFamilies #-}
module C where
import {-# SOURCE #-} A
import F
type instance F T = Bool
-- A.hs
module A where
import B
import C
data T = T
```

From what I wrote: right now, we decide to defer a type family consistency check if the family was recursively defined. If the RHS refers to a recursively defined type, there's no problem: we don't need to look at it for consistency checking. But if the LHS is recursively defined, as is in this example, we DO need to defer the check.

But it's a bit irritating to figure out whether or not there's actually a reference to a recursively defined type in the LHS, since this involves traversing the LHS types, and if we're not careful we'll end up pulling in the TyThing anyway. There are two other possibilities: (1) always defer checking instances which are defined inside the recursive look (by looking at the Name of the axiom), or (2) annotating IfaceAxiom with the set of boot types its LHS refers to, for easy checking. Not entirely sure what the best action is.