Cleanup the upsweep strategy in GHC.load.

Now it's hopefully clearer how we decide what modules to recompile,
and which are "stable" (not even looked at) during a reload.  See the
comments for details.

Also, I've taken some trouble to explicitly prune out things that
aren't required before a reload, which should reduce the memory
requirements for :reload in GHCi.  Currently I believe it keeps most
of the old program until the reload is complete, now it shouldn't
require any extra memory.