Hackily decouple the parser from the desugarer

In a hopefully temporary hack, I re-used the idea from !1957 of using a
nullary type family to break the dependency from GHC.Driver.Hooks on the
definition of DsM ("Abstract Data").
This in turn broke the last dependency from the parser to the desugarer.
More details in `Note [The Decoupling Abstract Data Hack]`.

In the future, we hope to undo this hack again in favour of breaking the
dependency from the parser to DynFlags altogether.