Expand binary size testing infrastructure

closes: #24191

Todos:

• fix in-tree vs out-tree warning. These might never match because of the value of distdir
• add tests for ghc binary
• add tests for the rest of the libs, currently just proof of concept with Cabal.
• Full CI passes
• Squash and rename commit message to refer to #24191
• no more DYG todos
• remove version numbers from checks, won't do, I deemed this not worth it because it would mean patching collect_size_dir to fuzzy match just like find_so and I find that to be less KISS. It should not be too much of an issue to the tests when we update submodules.
• rebase