Allow users to ignore optimization changes

* Add a new flag, `-fignore-optim-changes`, allowing them to avoid
  recompilation if the only changes are to the `-O` level or to
  flags controlling optimizations.

* When `-fignore-optim-changes` is *off*, recompile when optimization
  flags (e.g., `-fno-full-laziness`) change. Previously, we ignored
  these unconditionally when deciding whether to recompile a module.

Reviewers: austin, bgamari, simonmar

Reviewed By: simonmar

Subscribers: duog, carter, simonmar, rwbarton, thomie

GHC Trac Issues: #13604

Differential Revision: https://phabricator.haskell.org/D4123

(cherry picked from commit 708ed9ca)