More refactoring in TcValidity

This patch responds to Trac #15334 by making it an error to
write an instance declaration for a tuple constraint like
(Eq [a], Show [a]).

I then discovered that instance validity checking was
scattered betweeen TcInstDcls and TcValidity, so I took
the time to bring it all together, into
  TcValidity.checkValidInstHead

In doing so I discovered that there are lot of special
cases.   I have not changed them, but at least they are
all laid out clearly now.